Feb 03 2012

Immersed in Culture

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 6:35 pm

We have two coworkers from China visiting at work this week, and i’m their primary host. It’s been a whirlwind week, and while i personally haven’t gotten much done, it’s been rewarding to see them making connections with others.

One of our guests who i’ll call D has visited the US twice before, but the other is experiencing American culture for the first time. So far he’s taken everything in stride.

One of the topics that hasn’t yet run out of discussion points is how American and Chinese culture differ. Here are some things i have learned.

  • There is no drinking age in China. D was absolutely flabbergasted when i told him our drinking age was 21. He asked if you also had to be 21 to be in the military. When i said no, that’s only 18, he just shook his head in disbelief.
  • There is no blood-alcohol level in China that is allowed when driving. Any alcohol in your system will get you taken to jail. The US allows a blood alcohol content of .08%.
  • D noticed that in the cafeteria, everyone puts ice into their drinks all the time. This is not done in China. And in fact, beer is served warm or lukewarm as well. The thought of warm beer got a wrinkled nose from me, and he just laughed.
  • There was a dancing & karaoke night for our division earlier this week. A few people sang, but not many. D asked why not? I don’t know, i guess in general Americans are shy. He said that karaoke is extremely popular in China, and there would be a line for the karaoke machine. It’s so popular that many places charge money to those who want to sing.
  • Most families in China have one child. I asked how the government enforces that and learned that the second child has no right to public schooling or certain identification documents. Also there are fines. Wikipedia tells me that the rule actually does not apply to everyone, but D tells me most people abide by it anyway.
  • Children in Chinese families do not have such things as sleepovers. I had read some of this in Amy Chua’s book, but D reinforced it for me. He played the clarinet as a child, and practiced four hours per day.
  • Michael Jackson is very popular in China. At the dance party, D’s face lit up whenever one of his songs was played.
  • The city of Beijing has terrible air pollution and no blue sky.
  • D was amazed at how many people have cars. In China, a family may have at most one car, and only rich families have multiple cars. I told him i had a household of two people, and we each had our own car, and that this was normal in America.
  • The subways are very crowded. D rides the subway for a 90-minute commute to work each day. He says it is too crowded even to play a handheld game like a 3DS.
  • The NBA is very popular in China. They were surprised i knew nothing about the NBA. I told them a lot of people like college basketball but not the NBA, and their only response is “Why?” I couldn’t really answer it.
  • Despite working for a great software company and having good technical skills, D says he is not “middle class” for Beijing. Maybe for the overall China population, but Beijing is a very rich city, and only rich people live there. He lives way outside the city, and feels generally lower class when in Beijing. I told him that pretty much everyone in America thinks of themselves as middle class.
  • It is illegal to build anymore golf courses in China because of the land it requires to build one. And only very rich people play golf.
  • Chinese people do not like many sweets. Well, at least not the adults. We had cake one afternoon in a meeting. Fairly boring-but-decent cake. They could not eat it because it was so sweet to them.
  • Their impression is that Americans like candy and we are all very fat.

It was pretty fascinating to have them here and to learn from them. I was glad they were willing to talk about the differences in culture and were just as interested in American culture as i was in Chinese culture. I had been worried about offending them all week, but luckily that was not an issue with these two. I hope to get to visit them later this year and experience the culture myself.

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Dec 11 2011

Today Is Sunday

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 8:59 pm

Today is Sunday, and the Somethings are due and overdue, but the typical format just doesn’t cover all the things i want to highlight. So here are some thoughts.

  • Our trip to Alaska was totally rad! It was awesome to see Nathan and Heather in their natural habitat.
  • Alaska is far. Twelve hours in the air. When i told people we were going to Alaska, i got quite a few people asking us if we would be driving from Seattle to Anchorage. It’s easy to forget just how far away it is. It is about the same distance from Seattle to Anchorage as it is from Raleigh to Seattle.
  • Alaskans know a lot more about how to survive in the snow than we do. They all have engine block heaters installed in their cars so they can plug their cars in. All the parking lots have these chargers so they can plug their cars in.
  • We took a fair number of pictures, but i’m still sorting them out and trying to get them uploaded. The one below is me standing in front of a frozen lake. We walked on it. How neat is that?
  • Our 4 days in Seattle were fun as well. We played a 3-day event for players with 0-5000 masterpoints and finished 14th of 112. Not too bad. It was a bit disappointing because we were leading, by some, after the first five sessions, but just had nothing good happen to us in the last session. There wasn’t that much we could have done, and we just watched our win slip away.
  • Lance and i can host a damn good bridge party. We had three tables here the other night, which was a pretty full house. Nugent hid upstairs all night, and the adults all had a good time playing bridge and Taboo.
  • We learned a new game thanks to Nathan & Heather- Dominion. A very good game, and i predict more of it in our future.
  • Nugent seemed a bit sullen when we got back. Perhaps he didn’t like being left behind. We’re taking him with us when we go to Ohio in a few weeks.
  • I had 800+ emails waiting for me when i got back after 11 days of not checking at all. I was pretty stressed out all week, but i finally feel caught up.
  • I’ve seen Breaking Dawn twice now! The first time with Heather, as we have seen all the movies together so far. And the second time this weekend with another friend. (I learned that if you stay through to the end of the credits, there is a teaser for the next movie! I missed that the first time!) It was so fun.
  • Glad to be home. December us a busy month (and it’s already nearly half over).

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Oct 26 2011

Shaggin’

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 11:39 pm

Last weekend, Lance and i joined some friends in Morehead City, NC for a sectional bridge tournament. I was telling one of my friends at work about it; how we were going to the beach, going to play bridge all weekend, and there was an opportunity to go shag dancing as well. My friend laughed and said, “What are you, 60 years old and retired?” Well, i’m not, but everyone else i was hanging out with is 60+. I started referring to it as my retired weekend. And i liked it!

I took a shag lesson several years ago and learned the basic steps. This was my first opportunity to go to a real shag club, though. The place was called Memories. Our group of six arrived just after 9 pm on a Saturday night, and the place was packed. I was the youngest person there by about 30 years. Everyone was having a blast, it seemed. I was SO excited to be there, and i loved watching the people dance. It was a bit intimidating – the dance floor was about 30×40 and was surrounded by a waist-high wall, and everyone was gathered around watching. So getting out there was really like being in the center of attention.

We watched for awhile. I was so entranced by all these couples dancing. I thought it was so sweet that all these older couples were out dancing together! And then i began talking to some of them; everyone was very friendly. I asked the first couple “How long have you been married?” “Oh – we’re not married!” After that i revised my question. “Are you married?” “Oh, no.” Not one person i talked to was there with a spouse. A few were actually couples who were in the early months of a relationship, but many were singles. That makes sense upon reflection, but it sure put a damper on my romantic idea of long-married couples out shagging together.

Our escort for the evening danced with each of the ladies in turn. It was SO FUN. I’m sure i was doing it wrong, but i didn’t care. And that’s the point of dancing, to have fun.

I enjoyed my retired weekend. The beach was beautiful, the bridge was interesting and the shagging was wonderful.

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Aug 02 2011

Tuesday

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 7:48 pm

Somehow it’s Tuesday, and i missed the Somethings this week. Oh well. Here are some random thoughts and goings-on in my life.

I’m reading Snowflower and the Secret Fan by Lara Lee. I’m not very far, but it’s already pretty fascinating. It’s about girls growing up in 19th century China. The footbinding process is described in detail. Wow, i had no idea. Quiz: what is the ideal foot size to achieve? Answer: 7 cm. Yes, that was CENTIMETERS. 1 in 10 girls died in the process due to blood poisoning associated with walking on bound feet in order for the girls to break their toes. Ouch.

Had a wonderful visit this weekend with Lance’s parents, who came Friday and left Monday. We had people over and had an IMP night (bridge); went to Moe’s, which was on Mom’s list; did birthday stuff (cool gift, an actual stadium seat from the old Fulton County Stadium!); went to a Mudcats game (cold ice cream cones on a hot summer night are superb); went to see Crazy, Stupid, Love (very cute); and just had an all around good time visiting.

Today i sent Lance to the Farmer’s Market to buy fruit and vegetables sufficient for 3 days of juicing. This is our latest food fad we’re trying. Two weeks ago we watched a documentary called Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead. Pretty fascinating. The show followed two guys doing a “juice fast” for 60 days. This means making your own juice and not consuming anything else, besides water. We’re not quite dedicated enough, or crazy enough, to go for 60 days. Neither are we as overweight as those guys were. So we’re going to try it for 10 days. Or at least 3 days, since that’s how much food we have on hand. I’ve done a fair amount of research; i hope it’s good enough. Optimistic result: try something new (i’m a sucker for new things), lose a few pounds, jump-start some healthier eating habits, introduce fresh juices into the diet on a semi-regular basis. More Likely Result: be hungry, lose some weight, gain it all back when it’s over.

I’m gearing up for a job change at work. It’s been in the making for some time, as i’ve been doing most of the work for several months. But the steps are being taken now and it will be official soon. I’m going to be managing my group of four people at work. It’s been six people for the summer, but when our two summer students go back to school things should get easier. I’m excited/nervous at the prospect.

Birthdays are over – Lance and i have birthdays a week apart. I planned to and never did blog about my perfect birthday weekend, but it was awesome. Friday off + new clothes + they-sure-do-give-out-good-babies-in-??-IL + bridge + weekend with friends + a day with my honey. I am once again the product of two primes (11×3), but in truth, i’ve always been the product of two primes (MomxDad). [Cue - "Awwww"]

Congress approved raising the debt ceiling today. At the last minute. I don’t think either side is happy, but everyone is putting a positive spin on it. At least the drama is over.

Lance started an awesome program today teaching bridge to home schoolers. Two hours blocks, twice per week. The first session went very well, according to my inside source. I’m excited for him; he’s a natural teacher, and this opportunity combines two of his passions.

Life is fun.

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Jul 30 2011

Shock

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 8:19 am

Monday night, i got home at 7 and had an hour with Lance before he went out to a home poker game, about a half mile from where we live. The host is a friend who has had a weekly home game at his house for a few months now. Since online poker went bust, Lance has played live more often, averaging once or twice per week. Sometimes i go with him, but it had been a long day and i wanted to get some sleep.

I went to bed early as planned and knew nothing until 6 am when Lance came home and woke me up. “Hi hon, i’m home. I saw someone murdered tonight.”

Confused and still half-asleep, my brilliant response was, “Murder? What kind of murder?”

“The kind where someone gets shot.”

Near midnight, two men entered the home where the game was held, wearing masks and brandishing guns, with intent to rob the place. The men were apprehended by one or more of the players at the table, and both would-be robbers were shot. One fatally.

Known details are available at the following news sites:
http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/9910477/
http://abclocal.go.com/wtvd/story?section=news/local&id=8272194
http://www.newsobserver.com/2011/07/26/1371260/2-robbery-suspects-shot-during.html

You might think that we may have more details than are described in those stories, seeing as how Lance was there, sitting at the table, and watched the whole thing unfold. But we don’t. Lance’s account is very muddled.  He describes a numbness, an inability to process what was happening. He has no memories of certain parts of the night. Hearing him describe it, he had some classic symptoms of shock.

And no wonder. Five gunshots were fired; a man was shot to death across the room from him. One of the news sites indicates that the robber was shot with his own gun. If true, there must have been some kind of struggle to get the gun away. I’m sure it was terrifying. In a situation like that, anything can happen.

I have immense relief that he is OK. What a scare. Even though i never knew anything until hours after it was over, the threat of the possibility that he would have been hurt is paralyzing.

Lance and the other people in the house spent several hours talking with police, and allowed to go home. None of the players were in trouble; they were trying to determine what had happened with the shooting. An investigation is still ongoing.

I worked from home Tuesday so Lance would not be left alone in that state. Throughout the day he talked through it some more, with me and with others in the poker community. He’s OK now, i think, and we’re glad to know that none of our friends were injured.

It’s terrible that someone was killed. But i have little sympathy.

The robbers have been identified, and no one that we’ve talked to knew them. I guess word about poker games gets around, though, and they found out about it. However, they clearly had no idea how these home games operate. Players play for real money, yes. A common buy-in is $200 per person, some a little more, some a little less.  But there is no actual money on the table, only chips. The money isn’t even in the same room. So it can’t be a quick smash-and-grab job; you have to know where the money is, and it will not be in the room where the ‘action’ is.

A couple of the news sites are claiming this is a “high stakes” game, but that is just media sensationalism. The blinds on each hand are $1-$2 and never increase. Last time i played i lost $200. The two times before that i won $100. To put this in perspective, there is a High Stakes Poker show on TV where the average buy-in is $200,000 and pots routinely get large enough to pay off our house in one stroke. That is high stakes. This game is medium stakes at best, and is considered low stakes by most.

I waited a few days to post in case the police called back; i didn’t want to say anything to get Lance or anyone else in trouble. But i’m not posting anything here that isn’t common knowledge.

Scary stuff.

Lance is now fine. He didn’t sleep well for a couple of nights, but i think he’s back to almost normal now.

Lance, i’m glad you’re safe. And happy birthday!

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Jun 02 2011

Take Me to Hospital

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 8:21 pm

I was listening to BBC radio and heard a reporter talking about someone who was “taken to hospital.” Not how i would say it – i would say the hospital – but these are Brits and sometimes they talk funny. It got me thinking, though, about the article the and when we use it and when we don’t.

  • I go to work.
  • I go to school.
  • I go to college.
  • I (don’t) go to church.
  • I go to dinner.
  • Lance goes to softball practice.

However,

  • I go to the beach.
  • I go to the lake.
  • I go to the mountains.
  • I go to the hospital.
  • I go to the doctor.
  • I go to the game.
  • I go to the zoo.
  • I go to the bank.

And, in a class all by itself,

  • I go on vacation.

Sometimes you hear British people talking about going to university, which sounds funny to me, but i guess it’s the same form as going to college. I don’t know how else British speech might differ from ours, though.

However, i’m a bit fascinated by when we use the and when we don’t. All of the above concepts seem relatively abstract to me. Lance argues that college, work, school and church are all more abstract, so we must remove the when things are more abstract. Not sure i buy it. Beach and doctor seem pretty abstract to me, although i guess i have a specific place in mind when i say them. But i also have a specific place in mind when i say work, and it just sounds silly to say I’m going to the work.

Abstractness itself is not a good indicator, though. When you get very specific, talking about actual places, we again drop the:

  • I go to my friend’s house.
  • I go to China.
  • I go to IHOP.

Also, certain nouns are ambidextrous. I’ve only thought of one example of this – can you think of others?

  • I’ve never been to prom.
  • I hope he asks me to the prom.

Curious to hear others’ thoughts.

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May 05 2011

Our Beanstalk Journey

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 9:05 pm

Several weeks ago, a Groupon came into my inbox for a zipline adventure in Morganton, NC. I knew we’d be in Morganton for GNTs, so i booked a Friday afternoon reservation at The Beanstalk Journey. I’d never done a zipline, and it sounded fun.

We arrived 15 minutes early, as asked, to “suit up” into our safety harness and helmets. It was a beautiful, sunny, 75 degrees. Our first obstacle was a rope tunnel to climb into the treetops.

We had two guides, neither of whom could possibly be out of high school. One was a bit surly, but the other was a red-headed freckly dude who was very enthusiastic and was definitely “in charge”. Freckle usually went first across an obstacle. Surly would send us one by one across, making sure our safety lines were attached. Freckle would receive us at the other side. We always had one or two lines connecting us to safety lines. There was zero chance of anyone falling. Surly may have been surly but he kept us safe. Our next obstacles were a series of rope bridges. These were fun, and we got a little higher in the treetops.

Next came a few ziplines. Platform to platform, we would zip across. Occasionally we needed to climb ladders to get higher. You would think climbing ladders was easy, but these guys took safety very seriously. Even when climbing a simple ladder, we were connected via belay just in case anything went wrong. Zipping was fun!  The first jump was a bit scary, but after that it was just fun. We would reach out with hands and feet to touch tree limbs, and then zoom into safety at each platform.

The very last platform was the highest one, and the last zipline would take us to the ground. It was long. (That’s what she said.) So long that the guides had to communicate by walkie-talkie to determine when it was safe. Freckle picked me out of the group and said “Why don’t you go first?” He buckled me in, attached my safety ropes, checked in with his partner at the bottom and said “OK, anytime you’re ready.” Just as my weight left the platform, he said, “No, no! Wait!!!” I had a moment to think “oh crap, i guess this is how i’m going to die,” before i felt the line catch my weight and i was zooming down the line. Oh, that was funny Mr. Freckle boy.

All in all, a very fun time.

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Feb 23 2011

Too Much Television?

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 11:03 am

For a year and a half, Lance and i have been cable-less.  We weren’t watching TV very much.  So after baseball season was over in 2009, we turned it off.

It’s been an interesting experiment.  For the most part, we just haven’t missed it.  Netflix is the best invention ever, and has kept us entertained when we do have time for television.  There are several current shows that we are a season behind on.  But we enjoy them just as much as if we’d watched them “live,” and there are no commercials to fast-forward through.  It’s been great.

And then, last year, baseball season started.  Lance watched games on mlb.com, but it wasn’t the same.  For awhile he tried to convince himself it was good enough.  But the picture was small, and he missed the baseball network channel, which is all-baseball-all-the-time.  So he was motivated to make a change before this year’s baseball season.  We’ve also been toying with the idea of getting new TVs.  We have an old, heavy non-flat-screen TV.  It works fine, but it’s time to move into the 21st century.

And so, in the past week, Lance has done a lot of research on TV service providers, as well as TVs.  He called DirecTV and ordered a service plan.  He then decided on three (!) TVs he wanted to buy.  Monday night, we headed to Best Buy to take a look at the TVs and make a very large purchase – three TVs plus TV stands.

Our general past experience at Best Buy has always been: we walk in wanting to browse, and are usually accosted by annoying service people.  Folks, i can figure out how you have alphabetized these Wii games i’m looking at, no i don’t need your help.  So we were a little surprised that no one showed any interest in the decently-well-dressed, mid-30s couple that spent 40 minutes scrutinizing TVs.  A DirecTV rep tried to help us out, but he couldn’t answer all the questions we had.  Meanwhile there was a cluster of blue-shirt-minions in the digital camera section, shooting the breeze.

Not getting any help, we left and ordered the TVs online when we got home.  It doesn’t make much sense to me.  Are they not paid at least partially on commissions?

Anyway, regardless of the Best Buy experience, it’s still very exciting to be getting the technological upgrades.  We’ll have a nice upgrade for our one TV that we currently have, and Lance will get a TV in his office that he’s been wanting and another for his man-cave in the garage.

It’s not all sunshine and roses yet – sometime in the next week we still have to assemble the TV stands.

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Feb 17 2011

Throwback

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 10:58 pm

When i was 15 or 16, there were these boots i wanted.  They were a pair of classic Doc Martens black combat boots and they cost $100.  That was a bit much for my own personal teenage savings, so i asked my mom if she would buy them for me.  She thought it was a bit much to spend on me without Dad’s buy-in.  I begged and pleaded for him to let me get these boots.  Finally he said yes, and the next day i proudly dame home with my new boots and showed them to him.  His reaction was, “Oh, THESE are the boots you wanted?!?  These are leather combat boots that will last you for years!  Easily worth the $100.  I thought you were getting some kind of fashionable pansy boots.”

He was right, those boots did last me for years.  I loved them, and we had many good times together.  The soles eventually wore down and i stopped wearing them so much because they had gotten a little uncomfortable.  Eventually i threw them out.

The past few times we’ve been to the mall i’ve been eyeing several different pairs of Doc Martens, thinking about maybe getting another pair.  Maybe a different color, maybe a different style.  Always looking, never buying.

At least until today.  They’re the exact same boots i had in my teens.  I love them just as much as the first pair!

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Feb 11 2011

Skiing – Wintergreen 2011

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 6:38 pm

Every year my work organizes a one-day trip to Wintergreen, VA.  It’s a pretty good deal.  $92 gets you a bus ride there and back, lift ticket, ski/snowboard rental and a beginner lesson if you need it.

I’ve been snow-skiing since i was about 10 years old.  Since i am old, i can also say this another way: i have been snow-skiing for more than 20 years.  Yes, that makes me sound old, doesn’t it?

I love skiing.  Yes, it’s expensive.  Yes, you have to deal with freezing hands and feet sometimes if you get snow in your gloves or boots.  Yes, there are a lot of clothes and other accessories required in order to stay warm and comfortable.

But to me, it’s worth it.  Being outside.  Feeling the wind on your face.  The exhilaration of going just a little too fast down a steep section.  The way your heart leaps a little bit.  Eyes watering just a little bit because of the cold.  Standing on top of the mountain and looking out over the world and how beautiful it is.  Sitting on the chairlift with a friend, or meeting new people on the lift and hearing their stories.  Hot chocolate in the lodge.  The way food tastes better than it ever did before.

Yes, i love it.  I wish i had time to do it more, but in recent years it seems i can’t find time to do everything i want to do.  Work always gets in the way.  And bridge vacations tend to take precedence because Lance and i both love bridge and we would prefer to take vacations together.  He tried skiing once, but i don’t think it’s high on his list.

But, i should be able to take this one day each year and enjoy skiing.  It’s easy and compact as trips go, and really requires minimal preparation on my part.  This year, my friend Tonia accompanied me, and at the end of the day i think we both had pretty good days.

The bus leaves at a horrible 4:30 in the morning, which means we had to get up at 3:30 am.  I can hardly type that without yawning.  Despite getting to the bus just after 4:15 as suggested, we were some of the last skiers to arrive and didn’t get to sit together on the way there.  The bus was more crowded than it has been in the past when i’ve taken this trip.  No matter, really, as we were both just trying to sleep anyway.  Neither of us had much success.

The skiing at Wintergreen this year was really quite excellent.  The entire mountain was open (see map above), and i skied absolutely all of it.  We got there right as they opened, and got our skies.  I left Tonia at the lesson area (it has been a few years since she skied and she wanted a refresher lesson), and went to ski the right side of the mountain for an hour.  Most of the black slopes were over there.  [Green=easy, Blue=intermediate, Black=hard]  It was awesome.  Though the slopes were not particularly hard, just steep.  No lift lines anywhere, very little traffic on the slopes.

I found Tonia after her lesson and we went up and down the greens a few times.  Then we broke for lunch.  We had packed sandwiches, chips & veggies so we didn’t have to buy $8 hamburgers.  I think it worked out pretty well.  After lunch we treated ourselves to hot chocolate.  Is there anything more perfect than hot chocolate?

I was worried that i wouldn’t be able to get Tonia to leave the lodge after we had gotten all warm, but she was a sport and suited back up.  After another hour skiing together, i left her to go try the left side of the mountain, which was primarily blue slopes, with a couple of blacks.  It was there that i found my favorite run of the day, called Big Acorn.  It was steep, and fast, and challenging without being too hard that i couldn’t do ait.

After an hour of that i was ready to quit.  I found Tonia and we went about changing into our bus clothes.  We had quit early, so we were the first ones back to the bus, and we made sure we got to sit together on the way back.  Right outside the bus, we noticed a building with some odd-looking signs.

Now, maybe it’s politically incorrect to say so, but i found this sign to be incredibly funny.  Notice the little woman only has one leg.  The companion man’s bathroom sign (not pictured) also only has one leg.  It turns out that Wintergreen is a big proponent of adaptive sports where they teach people with a disability (such as one leg) to ski or snowboard or do other sports.  Tonia even saw a one-legged skier, though i didn’t.  That’s totally awesome, no doubt, and i’m impressed that this resource is available.  If i only had one leg, i wouldn’t have even thought i could still ski, so this certainly opens up opportunities for fun and enjoyment.  I still think the sign is amusing.

Finally, on the way home.  The road home seemed a lot longer.  In part that may be because we were forced to watch Pirates of the Caribbean, of which i am not a fan.  A couple Christmases ago i took my cousins to the movies and we watched PotC II (Dead Man’s Chest).  The one on the bus was the first one (Curse of the Black Pearl), and i swear it was the same exact movie.  A few scenes were definitely missing or different, so i know it was different.  But it was the same movie.

We got back to Raleigh at 9:30, where i immediately drove home as fast as i could so i could collapse in bed.  It was a good day.

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