Jul 30 2011

Shock

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 8:19 am

Monday night, i got home at 7 and had an hour with Lance before he went out to a home poker game, about a half mile from where we live. The host is a friend who has had a weekly home game at his house for a few months now. Since online poker went bust, Lance has played live more often, averaging once or twice per week. Sometimes i go with him, but it had been a long day and i wanted to get some sleep.

I went to bed early as planned and knew nothing until 6 am when Lance came home and woke me up. “Hi hon, i’m home. I saw someone murdered tonight.”

Confused and still half-asleep, my brilliant response was, “Murder? What kind of murder?”

“The kind where someone gets shot.”

Near midnight, two men entered the home where the game was held, wearing masks and brandishing guns, with intent to rob the place. The men were apprehended by one or more of the players at the table, and both would-be robbers were shot. One fatally.

Known details are available at the following news sites:
http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/9910477/
http://abclocal.go.com/wtvd/story?section=news/local&id=8272194
http://www.newsobserver.com/2011/07/26/1371260/2-robbery-suspects-shot-during.html

You might think that we may have more details than are described in those stories, seeing as how Lance was there, sitting at the table, and watched the whole thing unfold. But we don’t. Lance’s account is very muddled.  He describes a numbness, an inability to process what was happening. He has no memories of certain parts of the night. Hearing him describe it, he had some classic symptoms of shock.

And no wonder. Five gunshots were fired; a man was shot to death across the room from him. One of the news sites indicates that the robber was shot with his own gun. If true, there must have been some kind of struggle to get the gun away. I’m sure it was terrifying. In a situation like that, anything can happen.

I have immense relief that he is OK. What a scare. Even though i never knew anything until hours after it was over, the threat of the possibility that he would have been hurt is paralyzing.

Lance and the other people in the house spent several hours talking with police, and allowed to go home. None of the players were in trouble; they were trying to determine what had happened with the shooting. An investigation is still ongoing.

I worked from home Tuesday so Lance would not be left alone in that state. Throughout the day he talked through it some more, with me and with others in the poker community. He’s OK now, i think, and we’re glad to know that none of our friends were injured.

It’s terrible that someone was killed. But i have little sympathy.

The robbers have been identified, and no one that we’ve talked to knew them. I guess word about poker games gets around, though, and they found out about it. However, they clearly had no idea how these home games operate. Players play for real money, yes. A common buy-in is $200 per person, some a little more, some a little less.  But there is no actual money on the table, only chips. The money isn’t even in the same room. So it can’t be a quick smash-and-grab job; you have to know where the money is, and it will not be in the room where the ‘action’ is.

A couple of the news sites are claiming this is a “high stakes” game, but that is just media sensationalism. The blinds on each hand are $1-$2 and never increase. Last time i played i lost $200. The two times before that i won $100. To put this in perspective, there is a High Stakes Poker show on TV where the average buy-in is $200,000 and pots routinely get large enough to pay off our house in one stroke. That is high stakes. This game is medium stakes at best, and is considered low stakes by most.

I waited a few days to post in case the police called back; i didn’t want to say anything to get Lance or anyone else in trouble. But i’m not posting anything here that isn’t common knowledge.

Scary stuff.

Lance is now fine. He didn’t sleep well for a couple of nights, but i think he’s back to almost normal now.

Lance, i’m glad you’re safe. And happy birthday!

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Jul 29 2011

Exceptional Exceptions

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 9:54 am

My co-workers and i just ran across what has to be the Best Ever Error Message (BEEM) output by the software we test.

Exception caught:
..\..\Portable\src\JException.cpp(285): Cannot find a question for the answer 42.
..\..\Portable\src\JException.cpp(296): Cannot rationalize the irrational number 3.141593.
..\..\Portable\src\JException.cpp(303): Cannot parse the sentence “Twas brillig and the slithy toves”.

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Jul 28 2011

How Americans View the World

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 12:07 am

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Jul 24 2011

Sunday Somethings, 24Jul11

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 11:59 pm

Others writing the Sunday Somethings: Kerry

Something that makes me happy: Hearing from all my peeps on my birthday.

Something tasty: So many tasty things this week, but i’ll have to highlight our Saturday lunch at Sweet Basil in Southern Pines. It is a delightful little restaurant, lunch only, and everything is superb. This time i tried an Indian-chicken-curry-with-mango-chutney soup that was absolutely divine.

Something from the bridge table:I think defending well is one of the harder things to learn in bridge, and this is where the more obvious differences are between good, experienced players and those who are less so.

Some things i am doing towards my goals: Made it through another year.

Something i am reading: Namaah’s Blessing by Jacqueline Carey. The final book in the latest Terre d’Ange saga.

Something happening around the house: Getting the house ready for guests.

Something i am thinking: Lance and i are talking about doing a 10-day Juice Fast/Feast. We watched a documentary named Fat, Sick & Nearly Dead that was particularly motivating. In the movie, the guys consumed nothing but vegetable/fruit juice for a full 60 days. Not sure i could do that, but 10 days seems do-able. It’s been on my Goals list from the beginning.

Something i am looking forward to: A visit from Mom & Dad Shull this weekend. It is a tradition that they visit each year toward the end of July for our birthdays. We’ve got a few interesting things planned.

Something i am hoping: Safe travels for loved ones.

Something random: I learned what a pencil skirt is.

Something planned: I need to take my car in for an oil change, which will usually leads to a surprise large expense with my 10 year old car.

Something captured: This week i was one of the lucky winners of an online auction of these unique banner bags. The proceeds benefit the Boys & Girls Clubs of Wake County. The bags are made out of banners that previously were displayed on the light poles around campus. I love it! There are only 10 of them.


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Jul 22 2011

Atlas Shrugged, by Ayn Rand

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 12:09 am

Ayn Rand is a polarizing figure. I know people who love her and those who think her ideas are rubbish. I wasn’t sure what to think – all i knew was what other people told me, and not all of them were clear on their reasons. I have people whom i respect in both camps. So, i needed to read some of her work to figure out exactly what her ideas were, and what i thought about them.

Atlas Shrugged was a tedious tome. The main character is a woman named Dagny Taggart, whose family has been in the railroad business for generations. She’s always known she would run the railroad when she grew up, and she does. She loves the railroad with a passion, and is very good at her job. Through her, we meet two other types of characters: 1) business associates who, like her, work hard and are successful, and 2) the rest of the world, many of whom are politicians, who think that greed is bad and need is good.

Is this story supposed to be satire? It takes itself too seriously, so i doubt it. Basically, the economy in the U.S. has reached a critical point where there are too many consumers and not enough producers. Dagny and her cohorts are providing goods and services to a world that doesn’t want to work, or pay, for them. The “rest of the world” thinks that to be needy is to be virtuous. Those that can produce, should produce, for the sake of those who can’t, and even for the sake of those who won’t. There is almost a religious aspect to those who claim to be completely free of greed, which basically means in this story that they are incapable of producing anything of value.

In this world, all the top talent, all the leaders of industry, are mysteriously disappearing, and it falls to a shrinking few to keep the economy from collapsing. When people ask why things are the way they are, the response is often “Who is John Galt?” which seems to be some sort of profane, rhetorical slang that basically means “Who knows?” The government blunders along, adding ridiculous regulations that cripple businesses at every turn.

Throughout the story, we learn that all the top talent is being lured away to a secret stronghold of smart people, who are building their own community, leaving “the rest of the world” to fend for themselves. They think that, by removing themselves from society, society will collapse much faster, which is what they WANT. They think that society is collapsing anyway, so they will hurry it along. And thus will they make the world realize that the world philosophy is wrong, and that greed is actually a good thing. In fact, i think Rand is making the case that greed is The good thing.

So, what did i learn about Ayn Rand’s ideas and do i agree with them? Here are some of the themes and my thoughts.

Personal responsibility is good – One of the largest themes, that we owe what we are to the labors of our own efforts. We should strive to work, and to work well. I agree.

Entitlement is bad – The book is full of characters who don’t do anything but spew hogwash about how pure they are. By refusing to try to make a profit by being productive, they think they are virtuous because they have no love of money, and thus deserve to be rewarded. For not doing anything. I agree this attitude is bad. I might even say evil.

No compassion for others – This is probably where i most strongly disagree. The protagonists have absolutely no good will towards men. They don’t do anything that isn’t for a profit, or that isn’t what they perceive as their duty. This is wrong. I might even say evil.

Greed is good – Greed could be just as easily be replaced with self-interest in this context. I moderately agree. Greed may be one of the seven deadly sins, but it is also how the economy makes progress. And this is probably where the Republicans’ fiscal policy comes from – trickle down economics assumes that businesses are acting in their self-interest to create a profit, and thus create jobs, and everyone profits. I think it is important to incentivize businesses, large and small. But love and compassion have to come into play at some point. Greed is not the ultimate virtue.

Regulation is bad – The government in this story seems hell-bent on passing regulations that make it impossible for businesses to survive. I disagree with the notion that all regulation is bad. Does anyone really think that the FDA should not exist to help insure the quality of food production?

Sex is not dirty – Some of the characters have to overcome their revulsion to the desires of their bodies. Our own society does have a preoccupation with sex, and our religions particularly preach that sex is generally a bad/dirty thing, that desire is base. I side with Rand here – it’s healthy to accept and understand your body and its desires as part of the self.

So, i found i agreed with many ideas in this book, at least to a point. I won’t go nearly as far as Rand does on some issues, and i have a feeling she and i would fall on opposite sides of the health care debate. I happen to think that we should help out those who need it the most. I did not LIKE the book, though. It was dry reading, very preachy. Also, there was only one smart woman in the whole book, and all the men of consequence fell in love with her. Really, all of them, there was even some weird tension with her brother.

One thing i did learn – the world Rand depicts has to be what all the uber-conservatives are afraid of. When they say “ObamaCare”, this is what they are envisioning: a mob of people who won’t work who expect to live off the rest of us. She does paint a scary picture, but we’re not there yet. Not even close.

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Jul 17 2011

Sunday Somethings, 17Jul11

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 2:46 pm

Others writing the Sunday Somethings: Kerry

Something that makes me happy: Finding a good gift for a man who has everything. My Dad’s birthday was yesterday and i was on the phone when he opened his gift – a toothpick dispenser in the form of a bird. You just press his little head down and he’ll grab a toothpick for you!

Something i am struggling with: Hackers!

Something tasty: Watermelon, one of the things i love about summer.

Something i learned: You can order pet food online. We did so, at the recommendation of our vet, from www.feedyourpets.com.

Something from the bridge table: A hand from Thursday night’s Swiss teams at the Raleigh Bridge Club, about the importance of hand evaluation.

Something i am reading: A Dance with Dragons, by George R. R. Martin. At long last!

Something happening around the house: Laundry, mountains of it.

Something i am thinking: This drama about the debt ceiling that’s going on in Washington is so much B.S. As i understand it, the debt ceiling is simply a formality that is necessary due to the obligations our country has already committed to. Unfortunately it has been turned into a dog-and-pony show so the Republicans can pretend to be worried about fiscal responsibility. The irony is that defaulting is about as fiscally irresponsible as you can get. Not to mention, how many times was the debt ceiling raise when Bush was in office? Only every year of his term. Why did we never hear about it? Because it is a formality. The time to have an argument about money was back when you actually passed the budget bill, not now.

Something i am looking forward to: Dad is coming for a brief visit and will stay with us for a night. It will be nice to see him.

Something random: Our next door neighbor often brings gifts. Today he brought some beautiful roses and tomatoes from his garden. I wish i was a better neighbor.

Something planned: Perhaps a trip to Wet ‘n Wild.


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Jul 14 2011

Hackers, Hackers, Everywhere

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 2:37 pm

I have alluded to my hotmail account getting hacked in the last few weeks, and many of you may have been getting spam from someone pretending to be me. I’ve been hacked again, and this time it was my website.

My understanding is that the hackers somehow got into my site’s email. I don’t use it at all, although i think if you sent me something to say, podrey at audreypodrey.com, it would be forwarded to my ‘real’ address. The point is, there is a mail server available within my site and the hackers got into it and started sending ads for penis products. The server people who host my site for me noticed the activity and locked down my site. They later analyzed the activity and told me exactly what had happened and what to do to fix it.

How nice of them! I’m impressed with their customer service. I still didn’t really know what i was doing, though, since my good friend Kerry had been the one who did most of the work to set me up 3 years ago. I emailed her with my panic voice turned on, and i got her sufficiently panicked that she upgraded the security of her own site, and thus knew exactly how to help me with mine.

So! Here i am, back in business. I now know i have a few readers b/c of how many people noticed my site was gone. That makes me feel good. So, thanks for reading, and thank you very much to my savvy friend Kerry for saving my website – i was lost without you.

What i’ve learned is that passwords really need to be secure! Both of the accounts that were hacked had weak passwords, as in – all lower case letters, no numbers, no special characters. They only scored 10% on this password strength checker. What’s probably worse, my “strong” passwords are only mediocre according to that tool, scoring only 50-60%. I clearly need to beef up my passwords, and i encourage everyone else to do the same.

There are tools available such as KeePass, which will generate very strong/random passwords for you and store them on your computer. Then, you only need to remember one password to access the program, and it will remember the rest for you. Does anyone use something like this? I’d love to hear your recommendations. I access accounts from multiple computers, so i’m not sure how easy or difficult that would make things for me.

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Jul 12 2011

Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, by Amy Chua

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 5:27 pm

It was several months ago when Amy Chua’s book was released, making headlines everywhere with her controversial parenting style. I read an excerpt from the NY Times and knew i wanted to read it.

It is controversial because her parenting style is simply not “the way we do things” here in America. And yet, it makes so much sense.

Chua’s parents raised her in a stereotypical Chinese fashion, demanding excellence, and she was determined to raise her two daughters in the same way. They were never allowed to attend sleepovers, get anything less than an A, or choose their own extracurriculars. She started her older daughter, Sophia, on the piano when she was 3 years old. Her younger daughter, Lulu, started with piano at a young age also, but soon moved to violin. She pushed both daughters relentlessly, forcing practice every day, sometimes over tantrums. They traveled frequently as a family, and even vacations brought no breaks for the young girls. Chua would search out pianos in hotel ballrooms and reserve times at odd ours, like 7-9 am, for her girls to practice.

It sounds extreme, but Chua made several points that resonated with me. One is that in order to truly enjoy something, you have to be good at it, and in order to get good, you have to practice, and children by default will not push themselves very hard.

A second point she makes is that “Westerners” tend to be very concerned about their children’s psyches and are worried about psychological damage much more so than a typical Chinese parent. Chua says that her Chinese parenting style assumes the kids can do it, assumes they can handle it, and doesn’t treat them as fragile. This goes wildly beyond what we would think of as acceptable, such as saying to a daugher, “Hey fatty, lose some weight.” That particular comment still makes me cringe, but the idea behind it intrigues me.

Chua’s determination and her daughters’ talents certainly yeilded results – her daughters are both very accomplished musicians, having played all over the world. Sophia performed at Carnegie Hall at age 14. Would she have made it to that stage if it weren’t for her “tiger mother”?

But Chua also admits how very hard it was on her to be such a parent, especially in our American culture. She even has to admit defeat when Lulu rebels. By the end of the book, she had agreed to let Lulu stop taking violin lessons.

One thing i thought was interesting, in China, Chua’s book has a totally different title – How to Raise a Child in America. Here, it stirred up the Mommy Wars and got people talking about education in this country and how we are rewarding mediocrity. In China, it’s marketed as a how-to manual. I guess it’s all in where you’re standing, and what your goals for your children are.

Definitely an interesting and worthwhile read, and it isn’t very long. Each chapter is a mini-story that could probably be read out of order.

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Jul 10 2011

Sunday Somethings, 10Jul11

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 11:59 pm

Others writing the Sunday Somethings: Kerry

Something that makes me happy: Thunderstorms.

Something i am struggling with: My role at work is evolving, and it is a tough because i’m basically doing two jobs, trying to do both well, and not doing either one as well as i’d like. I think i like where i’m going, but transitions are hard.

Something tasty: Grilled corn-on-the-cob.

Something i learned: My manager was out of town last week. I happened to copy her on an email, and i received her out of office reply, which was generic but said “For urgent questions, see Podrey.” Not that anything urgent happened, but i learned that i would be trusted to handle it!

Some things i am doing towards my goals: This weekend i met my goal of “get paid to play bridge”. Lance set the whole thing up for me (and Lance was playing pro the whole weekend) but the end result was that i played two sessions of bridge with a paying client.

Something from the bridge table: So many stories, most of them are examples of things that the clients did that seem nonsensical. It all points to how very far we have come. I can’t remember having trouble with kinds of things they do, like remembering to pull trumps, but maybe at one point i, too, was afraid to do it. There are just so many things that are automatic for me when looking at a bridge hand, and it’s no small task to go back and try to explain step-by-step the things that you took for granted as a given.

Something i am reading: This week, i read A Feast for Crows by George R. R. Martin and Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua. I’ve moved on to Dark Places by Gillian Flynn, which seems to be a quick read also.

Something happening around the house: Lots of reading and online bridge.

Something i am thinking: It’s time to get a hair cut.

Something i am looking forward to: George Martin’s new book, A Dance with Dragons, is being released on Tuesday. I am so so excited about getting it! Amazon claims they will deliver it to me Tuesday, so i decided not to do any midnight visits to a bookstore. There will be a few late nights this week, i imagine.

Something I am hoping: That Adam had a very happy 31st birthday!

Something random: What did one flag say to the other? Nothing – it just waved.

Something planned: A lot of reading this week. I can’t wait!


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Jul 03 2011

Sunday Somethings 03Jul11

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 11:59 pm

Others writing the Sunday Somethings: Kerry

Something that makes me happy: Looking through memory books. We have lots of goofy picture, especially of Lance, who often appears drunk in pictures (much more often than he actually is!).  We just laugh and laugh.

Something i am struggling with: My hotmail/msn account got hacked and was sending all sorts of spam. I think i’ve put an end to it – just had to change my password. Sorry to all who were getting email from me asking you to buy penis products!

Something tasty: Breakfast at Courtney’s. Always a favorite.

Something i learned: My summer student and i use the inter-office chat frequently. I considered myself well-versed in chat-speak and chat-acronyms, but she kept using one that i didn’t know – “hn”. I didn’t want to appear OLD and UNWISE in the ways of the internets, so i didn’t ask. “Here now” sometimes made sense, but only about half the time. I finally learned that it is a sarcastic “how nice”.

Something from the bridge table: Lots of party bridge this weekend.

Something i am reading: Personality Plus: How to Understand Others by Understanding Yourself, by Florence Littauer. Also Off-Road Declarer Play, by David Bird.

Something happening around the house: Lots of online bridge.

Something i am thinking: Hello, July? I think you are being a bit forward. I wasn’t quite ready for you to swoop in like this.

Something random: A woman will spend $10 for a $20 item she doesn’t need. A man will spend $20 for a $10 item he does need.

Something planned: Chapel Hill bridge tournament.

Something captured: Nugent developed a severe case of allergies. He had been scratching more than usual, and we found a couple fleas on him. He got his monthly flea medicine a bit early, but his scratching just got worse, and he had places on his belly where he’d scratched himself raw by the time we took him to the vet. He got some more medicine, and we were advised to put a T-shirt on him to protect his belly from more scratching. He looks dressed up! He’s feeling much better now.



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