Oct 29 2009

Do as I Say and Not as I Do

Category: Uncategorizedpodrey @ 8:56 pm

I have stumbled onto a very interesting blog called Experimental Theology.  The author is a Christian who also happens to be a psychologist, and his research and essays focus on the psychology of behavior in the context of religion.  It is interesting reading.  This column caught my eye in particular.

It is about about the way some Christians differ widely in what they say and what they do.  They often talk about working on their relationship with Jesus, but in doing so, they ignore acting as Jesus would have done.

Take, for example, how Christians tip and behave in restaurants. If you have ever worked in the restaurant industry you know the reputation of the Sunday morning lunch crowd. Millions of Christians go to lunch after church on Sundays and their behavior is abysmal. The single most damaging phenomenon to the witness of Christianity in America today is the collective behavior of the Sunday morning lunch crowd. Never has a more well-dressed, entitled, dismissive, haughty or cheap collection of Christians been seen on the face of the earth.

I exaggerate of course. But I hope you see my point. Rather than pouring our efforts into two hours of worship, bible study and Christian fellowship on Sunday why don’t we just take a moment and a few extra bucks to act like a decent human being when we go to lunch afterwards? Just think about it. What if the entire restaurant industry actually began to look forward to working Sunday lunch? If they said amongst themselves, “I love the church crowd. They are kind, patient and very generous. It’s my favorite part of the week waiting on Christians.” How might such a change affect the way the world sees us? Think about it. Just being a decent human being for one hour each Sunday and the world sees us in a whole new way.

The author is Dr. Richard Beck, and his comments remind me of a post i made earlier this year that linked to another story about church folk refusing to tip.  This is not a commentary about all Christians; i’m sure there are those that tip well.  But there is no denying the very widespread perception among waitstaff across the country that the Sunday crowd, ie the church crowd, tips the worst.

Anecdotally, I admit to leaving extra money on the table a time or two when my parents treated us for dinner when they were visiting us.  Because i had seen the check and didn’t think 10% was enough for a waitress that worked her butt off.

I love this writer, though, and am subscribed to his RSS feed.  The things he analyzes are fascinating.  Nathan, if you’re reading, i think you would really resonate with his writing and his message.

Read the full article.

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2 Responses to “Do as I Say and Not as I Do”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Beck said, “Many churches are jerk factories.” Lol! I cracked up, laughting
    my head off when I read this. Thanks for the referral to the website.

  2. Cindy H. says:

    wow. That was an amazing article as I generally don’t ‘see’ this side of Christian view and behavior. I probably will blog about this and link to your post… You provide such great insight to these subject matters!!

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