May 31 2009

Sunday Somethings, 31May09

Tags: podrey @ 1:31 pm

Others writing the Sunday Somethings: Kerry

Something that made me smile this week: The lake.  Swimming.  Shrieks of children laughing.  Playing King of the Raft with the adults.

Something i struggled with this week: Hormones.  Something turned me into an unstable, emotional wreck for an entire day.

Something tasty i ate this week: I treated myself to ice cream sandwiches.

Something i learned this week: I have a lot of respect & support from the bridge community.  I was one of several people singled out and semi-attacked in a public bridge forum.  The response from the majority of the bridge community was awesome - folks publicly questioned the instigators and i also received a lot of private messages (as did lance, who was also singled out).

Something from the bridge table: A Suit Combinations Quiz taken from the Encyclopedia of Bridge.  Source: the Palo Alto bridge club.

Some thing i am doing towards my goals: I think i’ll mark ‘learn JSL’ off the list.  It’s an internally developed language at my company, and my education has been an ongoing process for several months.  There’s still lots to learn, but i now consider myself an intermediate user.

Something i am reading: Started and finished Infected by Scott Sigler.  Began rereading A Game of Thrones by George R. R. Martin.  It is my absolute favorite book (first of a series).

Something happening around the house: Watching a discovery channel DVD from netflix, drinking coffee and working on computers.  The kitchen needs to be cleaned and laundry (always laundry!) needs to be done, but i’m blowing it off today.  I do need to do a big grocery run, though, no avoiding that.

Something i am thinking: Do they have amusement parks in Iraq?  Sometimes i contrast our lives, where we spend A LOT of our time simply trying to entertain ourselves, with what i imagine it to be like in Iraq or Afghanistan.  It hardly seems like the same world.

Something i am hoping: I hope the new car doesn’t die in the first year of us owning it.  I really hope it will last 3+ years, and that shouldn’t be a problem - it’s old but it’s in really good shape.  We just had a scare yesterday when it wouldn’t start.  It turns out the car only starts when in Park and we weren’t in Park, so there’s nothing to worry about, but for a brief moment, i couldn’t help rolling my eyes and thinking Great, the car breaks the day after we bought it.

Something i am looking forward to next week: Bridge tournament!  I get to play with my three favorite partners and overload on bridge.

Something random: We stayed close to home this weekend, and i really needed it.  After four straight weekends of family, including two plane rides and more than a thousand miles of driving, it was time to lay low for a few days.

Something captured: Lance’s new car.


May 27 2009

Annoyed

Tags: podrey @ 4:10 pm

Everything is annoying me today.  Is it because it’s my first day back from vacation, and i wish i was back at the lake relaxing?  Is it because my period seems to have come five days early and my hormones are all weird?  Or are these things genuinely annoying?

  • The guy we might buy a car from wants a certified check instead of a personal check.  It’s perfectly reasonable, but it still hurts my feelings.  My personal check isn’t good enough?  It annoys me further because i will have to request the check through the mail as there are no local branches for my bank.  The process will drag on.
  • I was invited to a party and Lance wasn’t.  No we’re Not Married but yes we’re still a Real Couple and i would never invite you somewhere and say your spouse wasn’t welcome.
  • I’m being bridge-stalked by someone, and i keep turning down invitations to play.  But she keeps trying to nail me down further and further in the future.  I think soon she might say, “how about Jan 31, 2010?” and i’ll still be saying “um… i’m busy that night.”
  • Lance is too busy to talk to me today.  And we are so busy for the next few days, there won’t be much time to talk in the evenings.  I’m not even sure what i want to talk about; i just want to connect.
  • I just ate chocolate even though i’m supposed to be behaving again now that vacation is over.
  • We desparately need groceries and i’m not sure when i’m going to be able to go to the store.
  • I have a list of chores a mile long that needs to be done, but i’m afraid i will just go home and flop.  I get so much done when i’m in “get shit done” mode but right now i have no motivation.

May 24 2009

Sunday Somethings, 24May09

Tags: podrey @ 11:57 am

Others writing the Sunday Somethings: Kerry

Something that made me smile this week: Riding in the boat.  My whole family (and a few hangers on) has congregated at Lake Keowee in SC this weekend, and boat rides are one of the best parts.

Something i struggled with this week: I haven’t struggled with much, except perhaps not having enough time to do what we need to do.

Something tasty i ate this week: Fancy Chocolate Chip Mint Shake from CookOut.

Something i learned this week: Bridge Base Online has a new web client that supports any browser.  This means i can use it on my Mac laptop.  Kudos to the support team for recognizing their software needed an upgrade.  The web client is much nicer than their old downloadable windows client, too, if you ask me.

Something from the bridge table: Ugh, i couldn’t do anything right, and have no good stories.

Some thing i am doing towards my goals: Vacationing with family is an ongoing goal, and here we are.

Something i am reading: Kelsey on Squeeze Play by Hugh Kelsey.

Something happening around the house: Right now, Lance and i are alone as the rest of the family is at church.  We’re both working on our laptops.  Nugent is asleep under the table.

Something i am thinking: It’s about time for us to remedy the 1-car only situation.  It’s worked for us for over a year now, but Lance is suddenly in demand all over Raleigh as a bridge teacher.  It’s becoming a bit of a hassle to negotiate who has the car when.

Something i am hoping: For more sunshine.  It’s been mostly overcast and dreary.

Something i am looking forward to next week: Nathan and Heather are arriving today and bringing their two dogs.  It will be good to see them, and i want to see all four dogs interact, too.

Something random: I love having fingernails.  I haven’t said much about them b/c i didn’t want to jinx it, but i haven’t bitten my nails in 5 weeks.  I have discovered nail salons - it’s pretty inexpensive to get your nails done.

Something captured:


May 18 2009

12th Annual Biltmore/Kiwanis 15K Classic

Tags: podrey @ 10:03 pm

With this race, i have officially completed the program i set out for myself in my running resolutions at the beginning of the year.

I’ve committed to two more races for the “spring” season - the National Employee Health & Fitness Day 5K this week at work, and the Race for the Cure 5K in June.  That’s it for official races until the fall schedule starts, though i still hope to run at least somewhat regularly this summer.

The race was in Asheville, where my folks live.  Lance came along for moral support, so we headed down to Asheville Saturday morning.  On the way into town, we stopped to pick up the race packet and spectator tickets ($15 each; spectators do not get in for free), then headed to the parents’ house.  We had a relaxing afternoon and evening, which included a nail painting party and much competetiveness concerning the Wii Fit balance games.

I went to bed at a reasonable hour, but slept fitfully.  I kept waking up thinking “oh no! i’m late!”  The first time this happened it was only 12:30.  It happened again at 2, 3:30 and 4:30.  Got up at 5, ate a banana and drank a bottle of water, then went outside with the idea to take a brisk walk to stretch the legs and get the blood pumping.

Unfortunately, it was raining.  So much for the walking idea.  Instead i walked around inside, impatiently waiting for my mom to get up.  Dad was already gone, as he was volunteering at the race site.

We piled into the car at 6 and headed over to Grandma’s house.  She was coming to watch, too.  I feel quite honored by this, actually, as the race day festivities will mean she will miss church.

At the gate to the Biltmore Estates, we proudly show our tickets, but no one is interested.  I was mildly annoyed by this, as they weren’t cheap.  Oh well.  It’s a 3-mile drive on a windy little road just to get to the start of the race, at the Winery.  They are very organized, though, and everyone is arriving early.

It is still drizzling off and on, and threatening to rain heavily.  The air has that muggy, pre-storm feel.  It’s around 60 degrees, and my fan club is all wearing jackets while i’m sporting my shorts and sleeveless top.  While the rest of them are sorting out umbrellas and chairs, i head off for a warm-up run.

The 5K starts five minutes before the 15K, and i know i’m in western NC when i hear the gun shot signaling the start of the 5K.  Of all the races this year, this is the only using a real gun.  Now, it’s our turn to line up, and everyone wants to kiss and hug me and wish me good luck.  I will never say i’m not loved.  And then we’re off!

Mile 1: The first mile was pretty flat.  It was still raining, but very lightly - i hardly noticed.  We passed some huge pastures with cattle in them, and i was amused to see the calves frolicking with each other and eyeing the runners.  It seemed like they wanted to play. 10:05

Mile 2: This one had several hills.  I don’t feel particularly bad about walking up the steepest parts of them.  I knew at the time that i had a long way to go.  The first water stop was along this mile.  The volunteer shouting out the times promised us that the third mile was all downhill!  11:47

Mile 3: About three-fourths of this mile were downhill, and i took advantage.  I was going pretty fast, for me.  My fastest time was in the low 7s.  The last quarter mile began a huge uphill battle, though.  The volunteer at the end of this mile said it was all downhill “after this”.  He was the first of several volunteers to say that.  9:05

Mile 4: The fourth mile was an almost continuous hill.  There was steep and less steep.  I felt okay, though, and i would use Cindy and $Bill’s trick of telling myself “i can make it to that tree” or “i can make it to that bend” or “i’ll walk if i can catch up with the person in the blue shorts”.  I did walk several times, but never for more than 30 seconds at a time.  The volunteer at the end said it gets better after this.  11:13

Mile 5: More uphill here.  About halfway through I took a long break at the water stop, trying to convince myself that i could run another 4.5 miles.  My enthusiasm was waning, though.  And the volunteer at the end said “it’s all downhill from now on.”  Um… you’ve ALL said that!  11:49

Mile 6: The previous few miles i haven’t noticed my surroundings much.  Basically, we’ve been in wooded areas.  The payoff happened here though.  At exactly 60 minutes and 5.6 miles i broke through the gate to the view of the Biltmore House.  It was stunning.  And blissfully flat!  The course took us up the right side of the lawn, past the very front of the house, and then back down the left side before exiting the opposite side of the rear lot.  There were photographers taking pictures of everyone as we were running away from the house, so there should be a nice picture of me with the Biltmore House in the background.  The end of mile 6 was just around the bend, at the gardens, where the volunteer once again said it was all downhill from here.  I gave him shit and said “you all say that!”  He yelled after me that it really was.  10:55

Mile 7: This mile was actually mostly downhill, thankfully.  I was sick to death of hills.  I had been revived a bit by the view of the house and the flatness, plus i knew i only had another 5K to go.  I pushed it on the downhill, but my feet were complaining.  I could feel the socks all around my feet, if that makes any sense.  There were some nice views on the way down.  9:41

Mile 8: This mile flattened out completely.  We passed a lake, and i was surprised to see water droplets on the lake.  It was still raining lightly, but i had not noticed at all.  Weird.  With the absense of hills, you would think i’d be happy, but i wasn’t.  It was becoming clear that the course was longer than 9.3 miles, at least according to my Garmin.  We passed the 5K turnaround, and i did the math - the course would end up being 9.5 miles.  You wouldn’t think .2 miles would make a huge difference, but at this point i wasn’t rational and i just wanted it to be over and how dare they make me run longer than necessary?  I walked once here, even though it was flat.  I was just plain tired.  11:08

Mile 9:  Still mad about the extra .2 miles.  I think i walked twice, again, even though it was pretty flat.  My pace was lagging also, and the half dozen people i had been seesawing with for the last five miles left me behind.  I decided to scan through the ipod for some of my favoritest favorite songs to get me in a better mood.  I found U2’s It’s a Beautiful Day, even though it was quite the dreary day, but it helped.    11:40

Final .3: The last chunk is always longer than it seems.  Or seems longer than it is.  Still, i knew i had my fan club waiting, and the thought cheered me.  I gave it a good effort and waved at everyone as i passed.  3:32

Final time was 1:41:17, which is about when i expected to finish, based on my 10K time.  I’d hoped to beat 1:40, and i know i could have if i hadn’t wimped out in the last two miles.  Or if i hadn’t crapped the training the last two weeks.

After i cooled down a bit and the cool weather dried the sweat off of my face, i noticed my face was covered in grit.  Everyone else probably knows this already, but i realized it was salt.  It makes sense, now that i think about it, i just usually hit the shower before my face has a chance to completely cool off.

My dad treated us all to a huge breakfast at IHOP, which in my opinion had the best pancakes ever.  My family made a pretty big deal out of me.  It was nice.  15K is the 3rd longest distance i have run.  In 2007, i ran a 10-miler and a half-marathon.  But even though it’s not like they didn’t know i could do it, it was the first long race they were able to be present for, and that made it special.

All in all, a good race.  I’m already thinking about doing it again next year.


May 17 2009

Sunday Somethings, 17May2009

Tags: podrey @ 7:52 pm

Others writing the Sunday Somethings: Kerry

Something that made me smile this week: Wild turkeys.  A half dozen of them were traveling together and crossed the road just in front of us while we were near my parents’ house in Asheville.  We had to stop for a minute because they were taking their time.  I want to see a Turkey Crossing sign!

Something i struggled with this week: Extreme soreness of the legs.

Something tasty i ate this week: Breakfast at IHOP!  Yum!  I learned that my uncle has the recipe for their pancakes - i am going to HAVE to get that!

Something i learned this week: Some work stuff i won’t get into here.

Something from the bridge table: The Defensive Four-Trick Compression.

Some thing i am doing towards my goals: I ran a 15K this morning.  This was the final race i pledged to run when i made my running resolutions at the beginning of the year.

Something i am reading: Still reading A History of God by Karen Armstrong, but boy is it dry.  I’ve also been studying Kelsey on Squeeze Play by Hugh Kelsey.

Something happening around the house: Catching up on Daily Show and SNL episodes.

Something i am thinking: I have committed to two more 5K races in the next two months.  I wish i was done, though.  I need a break from running.

Something i am hoping: For continuing good health.  I have avoided a cold this spring.  I see others around me getting sick and it makes me feel lucky.

Something i am looking forward to next week: Lake vacation for an extended weekend over Memorial Day with family.

Something random: I don’t know how Lost can have another whole season when everyone has been blown up.

Something captured: The finish line of a 15K race, but no one had a camera.  The professional picture takers took pictures, though, i’ll get a picture up here sometime.


May 14 2009

How Not To Network

Tags: podrey @ 9:36 pm

How NOT to Network

I used to work with someone.  She was quirky, but pleasant enough.  She trained me in one area, and i learned a lot from her.  We were in touch off and on for the years after that, but for the most part, i felt the conversation was generally All About Her whenever i saw her.

She was terminated last year.  Fast forward to now, and there are a few job openings in my group.  Just this week.  She has applied for one, and sent me an email.  It contained one line asking about me and Lance, but it wasn’t really personal and seemed disinterested and/or obligatory.  The real meat of the message was a significantly longer paragraph about her needs, asking me to personally hand her resume to the hiring (my) manager.

First of all, i’ll just say i think it’s bizarre to apply for jobs at a company that has terminated you.  Being laid off is one thing, but this seems a different scenario.

But ignoring that, i am not keen to give an endorsement.  I did learn quite a bit from her in our early days of working together, but some later work experiences were not as positive. I’m sensitive to the economy and how people need help, and it often helps to have an inside person vouching for you.  But she’s not networking very well.  She hasn’t made me want to help her.  When all our previous encounters were all about her, i can’t help but thinking “oh now that you want something, now you ask about Lance?”

It’s an emotional response, i’ll admit.  And i did end up talking to my manager about her.  I gave positives and negatives.

How to Do It Right

I used to work with a guy i’ll call P.  Around the same time i worked with the woman above.  He was a nice guy, and we eventually became friends, if just casual work friends.  We bonded most while discussing our respective casino trips - i would go to play NL HoldEm, and he goes with his dad and plays Pai Gow the whole time.

I have a vague memory of a difficult time working with him, but i can’t remember exactly what it was.  The rest was positive.

It’s been years since we worked together, but I still hear from P about three times per year.   Twice randomly, and once when it’s time for NCAA basketball brackets to be filled out.  He does it right.  He sends me a couple pictures of his kid, asks about several things he knows i have going on in my life, and tells me a little news about himself.  And he always mentions casinos and poker.  He keys in on that common interest we had.  Even though neither of us has been to a casino in more than two years, it’s something to re-establish the connection.  We’ll have a thread a few emails long each time while we briefly catch up, and then half a year will pass and he’ll do it again.

The self-absorbed side of me thinks that i’m just that cool, that he wants to stay in touch.  But the more realistic side of me thinks, wow, this dude knows how to network.  I’m probably one of several people he does this with.  He might have a reminder set every six months, and he emails the people on his networking list.  It’s smart.  He’s networking before he needs it, and maintaining relationships that may help him in the future.  I am in awe of it, and i tell myself i should do that too, but i don’t follow through.

I like P.  If he hadn’t stayed in touch with me, i’m sure i’d remember him, but only vaguely.  I’d remember the guy who i talked about casino trips with, but i might also remember the difficult work experience.  And if he asked me out of the blue to endorse his resume?  I’d likely feel similarly to the situation above.  As things are, if P asked me to put in a good word for him, i would.  He’s made me want to help him, if he ever needs it.  I haven’t worked with him in years, but he’s maintained that connection.

The thing is, i don’t think he’ll need my help.


May 12 2009

A Fifth Letter from Grandma

Tags: , podrey @ 7:53 am

Just before Easter, i received an unexpected card in the mail from Grandma.  I thought she had given up writing to me, but i guess that doesn’t preclude the mandatory Resurrection Day card.  (Or, as my brother calls it, Zombie Jesus Day.  Because, after all, every other creature that has risen from the dead is referred to as a zombie.  It’s a good point!)

Grandma did not make much attempt at conversation, which is consistent with her earlier letters.  It was a card that repeated the notion that even though i don’t believe, i am saved because i was saved as a child, so she hopes i will accept jesus as my savior.  Which doesn’t really make sense to me.

There were two enclosures.  One is the picture shown here.  The other was a daily bible study article about Thomas Time.

I, like everyone else, was extremely thrilled that the plane landed safely and no lives were lost.  I give full credit to the captain and crew.  It’s ridiculous to me that god would have safely landed this plane, but lets others crash, and lets other atrocities occur.  I know, i know, i can’t comprehend all of god’s purpose, and he doesn’t make bad things happen but he allows them to happen.  Might he not also allow good things to happen, without directly intervening himself?

The Thomas Time excerpt is a story about a man who, like me, was raised in a godly home, but turns away from god and is struggling with unbelief.  Someone suggests to him that he is in the Thomas Time of his life.  Thomas was an apostle who did not believe the news that jesus rose from the dead.  That is, until jesus appeared to him a few days after the event, showed Thomas the scars, and let Thomas touch him.  If jesus wants to appear to me, or if he wants to, say, heal an amputee, i’m sure i, like Thomas, will become a believer once again.  But jesus doesn’t do that stuff anymore.

I’m not going to respond to Grandma’s letter.  I already know that if she doesn’t hear what she wants to hear, she’s going to quit writing to me again anyway.  And i also already know that she doesn’t want the same things out of a correspondence that i would want.  I want a relationship.  She wants me to believe in the Tooth Fairy.


May 11 2009

Mary Kay Half Price

Tags: podrey @ 7:24 pm

I’m getting ready to place another Mary Kay order.  I will place it on Wednesday.  I’m a consultant, though i don’t do it to make money.  For the few of you who both read this blog and use Mary Kay products, let me know if you are interested in receiving any products at cost. :-)


May 10 2009

Sunday Somethings, 10May09

Tags: podrey @ 5:49 pm

Others writing the Sunday Somethings: Kerry

Something that made me smile this week: Watching my youngest brother graduate from divinity school at Campbell University.  However we may differ in our beliefs, i am extremely proud of him, and i have the utmost respect for him, his faith, and how he chooses to serve.

Something i struggled with this week: How do you tell your mom that she doesn’t need to describe everything happening in the movie theater as it’s happening? On Mother’s Day weekend?

Something tasty i ate this week: Black pepper bacon from Neuskes.

Some things i learned this week: How to uninstall a ceiling fan, and install a new one.  I learned some about electrical wiring, too, as my dad and i managed not to shock ourselves even though we didn’t turn off the circuit breaker.

Something from the bridge table: A suit combination from this week: 932 in dummy and AKT74 in hand.  There is one entry to the board.  The correct way to play this suit is to start with a high one from hand.  a) if an honor falls on your left, use your entry to go to dummy and lead the 9, playing RHO for Hxxx.  You get five tricks.  b) If an honor falls on your right and you have plenty of entries to hand, you can cater to QJ tight and play the King.  If entries to hand are limited, go ahead and lead toward the 9.  c) if both play low, play a low one toward the 9.  You can always get four tricks in the suit unless LHO has QJxx.  The key holding to cater to here is QJxx on your right.

Some thing i am doing towards my goals: Learning how to do things around the house - Dad is always a big help and he mentored me this weekend.

Something i am reading: A History of God by Karen Armstrong.  Also started and finished Are You There, God, It’s Me Margaret by Judy Blume.

Something happening around the house:The house still smells like the bacon i cooked this morning.

Something i am thinking: Relationships can be hard.  But the are SO worth it.

Something i am hoping: That i do well in my 15k this coming week.  I definitely don’t feel as prepared as i want to be, but i think i can i think i can!

Something i am looking forward to next week: Bridge with Lance.

Something random: I think i’m better than average at parallel parking and backing up.

Something captured: Me & Nathan, at his graduation party.


May 04 2009

Speed

Tags: podrey @ 5:55 am

It’s 5:45 am and i’m sitting in the Columbus Airport waiting for our flight.  Once again, security was not an issue, and i have to say that overall the airport experience was a positive one.

Anyway, it’s 5:45 am.  I am wide awake.  I haven’t slept.  At all.

This wasn’t an attempt to intentionally stay up all night so i wouldn’t have to get up early.  I know that getting up early sucks a lot less than how you feel around the 32nd hour of no sleep.  I tried to sleep.  In fact, i was in a comfortable bed trying to sleep for about 6.5 hours.

The problem began yesterday when i began having some pretty severe menstrual cramps.  I didn’t have any ibuprofen, neither did mom, and neither did the two ladies i asked.  So when we got back to Kevin’s place i asked if he had some.  He said no, but he did have some pills with caffeine in them.  At that point, i’d try anything, and i know that caffeine does work as a pain reducer sometimes.  He gave me two pills.

I took one, and right before i took the second i thought, i don’t know what this will do to me.  So i stopped at just the one pill, taking a wait-and-see stance.  It was 7 o’clock.

I went to bed around 11.  Kev once again let us have his very comfortable bed, and i sank into it.  I was quite tired from the weekend.  However, sleep would not come.  My mind went over and over hands from the weekend, i replayed songs we’d heard in the radio, i replayed a debate i had with Kevin & Lance.  I tried counting sheep.  I tried breathing deeply.  But sleep would not come.  My eyes were closed, and i may have snoozed a little, but it was the type of sleep where you are conscious of the passage of time.  I was just waiting for the alarm to go off, knowing 5 am would come sooner than i wanted it to.  I knew it would happen any minute, and then my phone beeped.  I had a text from the airline - my 3-hour warning.  It was only 3:30 am.

If i had bothered to look up caffeine pills online, i would know that there is a warning not to take them after 4 pm or you may have trouble or inability to sleep.  Sigh.

So.  I still have the 2nd pill.  My decision now is whether i go to work today, as planned, with no sleep.  And if i do - do i take the 2nd pill to get through the day?

I think not - enough experimentation with drugs for one day.


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